Cristin O'Keefe Aptowicz
Marriage is You and Your Spouse Against the World
And The Moment You Choose the World Over Your Spouse,
-Anonymous Internet Commentator
Here is what we seem
to know is true:
I am a morning person
and he is a night owl;
He is a spendthrift
and I am a miser.
Life to me is a series
of steps, items on lists
to be crossed off.
To him, life is a cacophony,
a happy blur. It must take a lot
of energy, because it requires
a lot of down time.
I once read the most telling sign
of forthcoming divorce is
if one partner has contempt
for the other. The contempt
shows up so many ways:
eye rolls, sighs, dismissing
your partner in front of other people.
You have to remember that
your reality is just that: your reality.
It goes both ways. Every morning
I wake up to go to write, in part
because I like to wake up and
because I have something to write.
It’s hard when life is unfolding
in front of you, happy and fresh,
and your partner is stuck, sleeping,
snoring, gasping for air.
CRISTIN O'KEEFE APTOWICZ is the author of six books of poetry, most recently The Year of No Mistakes (Write Bloody Publishing, 2013) which was named the Book of the Year for Poetry by the Writers’ League of Texas. She is also the author of two books of nonfiction, most recently Dr Mütter’s Marvels: A True Tale of Intrigue and Innovation at the Dawn of Modern Medicine (Avery Books / Penguin), which spent three months on the New York Times Best Seller list for three months. Her seventh collection of poetry, How to Love the Empty Air, will be released this winter by Write Bloody Publishing. She lives in Austin, TX, with her husband, novelist/screenwriter Ernest Cline and their family. For more information, including forthcoming tour dates, please visit: http://www.aptowicz.com/